Just some notes and bits of inspiriation that keep me going. :)
Dear Kimberly,
You, Connor and your family are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. I highly support you and respect you for making that page. I would always say that it is tough for parents to bury their own child. I had the experience of having to bury my father at 16, but I knew that both my parents would rather have it that way then to have lost a child. I too grieved for long periods of time and lost so many friends and supporters because they did not understand me or thought I was silly for posting stuff on myspace or facebook. However, it was my way of coping and dealing and I felt as though I was talking to him. I love talking about my dad and sharing him with others, I feel as though it keeps him alive. You need to do what you need to do, and what is best for you. I used to hate when people came up to me and would say "I know it's hard, I can't/ can imagine what you are going through" or "be lucky for the time you had." Though some people may have gone through something similar every situation is different. I am not saying I understand what you are going through, but I am letting you know I have been in the situation where I had to grieve. Now five years later I still grieve. Time does help but it never is "easy" as people like to tell you. A piece of the one you lost is still with you, and you are the one that has to live without them. There are constantly things that remind you or let you know that the person you love is missing. But there is hope and helping others will definitely help.
So what you are doing is amazing, trying to help people while they still might have a chance. I joined two high school grief groups and though I was still new to it all, I became a mentor, and found helping others is exactly what helped me. You need to do what you need to do, and take as much time as you need to grieve. Do not let anyone tell you "you need to be over it, its been ___ this long" That is what people told me and PLEASE do not fall for that. No matter how long it has been they do not know what you need or what you are going through. Please let me know if you need anything, I would love to help in anyway that I could. I went and bought grief books and they truly helped me, I wish I still had them or I would have sent them to you. Feel free to message me anytime or call me. I would love to share with you some things that I did that helped as well. I am sorry if this message may have upset you but I hope it has helped. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Jasmine
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Sweet Kimberly,
I am so very proud of you and the woman you have become. It's so hard to believe that you are 21 years old, to me I think I will always see you and Anthony running around in diapers playing with the water hose outside. I just finished going through your blog on Connor (and signing your petition). I am so sorry that you have had to endure such heartache. But, the awareness you are trying to bring is so awesome! I know your mom and dad are very proud of you.
Hang in there and remember what you said, it's ok to be angry, it's ok to be sad, it's ok to have fun. I'm glad you have a great man to help you through this tough time. I will support your efforts anytime!!!
You and Sam have been in my thoughts and prayers for 2 months now, and will continue to be in them for many more years to come. It is a hard road to endure, but if anyone can do it, YOU CAN!
I Love you!
"Aunt" Angie
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Hi Kimberly,
I'm a friend of Lamar's & Nicole's (even though I haven't met her). Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am a nurse & have received most of my experience in family medicine. I was unaware of this issue as well. Unfortunately, the public believes nurses & doctors know everything. Your experience shows that is not the case.
I thought the information you shared was very informative & helpful. I feel others will benefit from this as well.
Best wishes,
Diane Hinson, RN
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Comment from facebook:
I admire your drive and dedication to this cause. But more than anything, I admire the love and commitment you have for your son. I truly wish I had your strength. You're a strong woman and a great person to know.
-Stephanie
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Kimberly, you are a beautiful and wise woman. Your passion about getting the word out about CMV is inspiring. Your strength is inspiring. You are inspiring. I love you my beautiful niece! Aunt Stuffy
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You, Connor and your family are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. I highly support you and respect you for making that page. I would always say that it is tough for parents to bury their own child. I had the experience of having to bury my father at 16, but I knew that both my parents would rather have it that way then to have lost a child. I too grieved for long periods of time and lost so many friends and supporters because they did not understand me or thought I was silly for posting stuff on myspace or facebook. However, it was my way of coping and dealing and I felt as though I was talking to him. I love talking about my dad and sharing him with others, I feel as though it keeps him alive. You need to do what you need to do, and what is best for you. I used to hate when people came up to me and would say "I know it's hard, I can't/ can imagine what you are going through" or "be lucky for the time you had." Though some people may have gone through something similar every situation is different. I am not saying I understand what you are going through, but I am letting you know I have been in the situation where I had to grieve. Now five years later I still grieve. Time does help but it never is "easy" as people like to tell you. A piece of the one you lost is still with you, and you are the one that has to live without them. There are constantly things that remind you or let you know that the person you love is missing. But there is hope and helping others will definitely help.
So what you are doing is amazing, trying to help people while they still might have a chance. I joined two high school grief groups and though I was still new to it all, I became a mentor, and found helping others is exactly what helped me. You need to do what you need to do, and take as much time as you need to grieve. Do not let anyone tell you "you need to be over it, its been ___ this long" That is what people told me and PLEASE do not fall for that. No matter how long it has been they do not know what you need or what you are going through. Please let me know if you need anything, I would love to help in anyway that I could. I went and bought grief books and they truly helped me, I wish I still had them or I would have sent them to you. Feel free to message me anytime or call me. I would love to share with you some things that I did that helped as well. I am sorry if this message may have upset you but I hope it has helped. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Jasmine
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Sweet Kimberly,
I am so very proud of you and the woman you have become. It's so hard to believe that you are 21 years old, to me I think I will always see you and Anthony running around in diapers playing with the water hose outside. I just finished going through your blog on Connor (and signing your petition). I am so sorry that you have had to endure such heartache. But, the awareness you are trying to bring is so awesome! I know your mom and dad are very proud of you.
Hang in there and remember what you said, it's ok to be angry, it's ok to be sad, it's ok to have fun. I'm glad you have a great man to help you through this tough time. I will support your efforts anytime!!!
You and Sam have been in my thoughts and prayers for 2 months now, and will continue to be in them for many more years to come. It is a hard road to endure, but if anyone can do it, YOU CAN!
I Love you!
"Aunt" Angie
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Hi Kimberly,
I'm a friend of Lamar's & Nicole's (even though I haven't met her). Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am a nurse & have received most of my experience in family medicine. I was unaware of this issue as well. Unfortunately, the public believes nurses & doctors know everything. Your experience shows that is not the case.
I thought the information you shared was very informative & helpful. I feel others will benefit from this as well.
Best wishes,
Diane Hinson, RN
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Comment from facebook:
I admire your drive and dedication to this cause. But more than anything, I admire the love and commitment you have for your son. I truly wish I had your strength. You're a strong woman and a great person to know.
-Stephanie
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Kimberly, you are a beautiful and wise woman. Your passion about getting the word out about CMV is inspiring. Your strength is inspiring. You are inspiring. I love you my beautiful niece! Aunt Stuffy
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